When your hair is shedding or falling out a lot, you tend to start analyzing every single part of your hair care regimen, including washing, conditioning, combing, and styling. When changing this doesn't work, many people will start looking at their diet, their health, and their products (to name just a few things.) One such product which often gets quite a bit of the blame is conditioner. Many people tell me that they believe that the process of conditioning makes more hair fall out. They may notice quite a bit after shampooing, but then the process of applying and rinsing out the conditioner yields a lot of hair on their hands and in the drain and they start contemplating avoiding this step to spare some hair. I'll discuss why avoiding this all together may not be the answer (although modifying your methods may be) in the following article.
It's Often The Manipulation, Not The Conditioner, That Makes The Shedding Seem Worse: Often this step requires more manipulation and slight pulling to apply and then rinse it all out. This can cause more hair on our hands or in the drain. Although it probably doesn't make you feel any better to know that the strands that you are seeing would've probably have come out through out the day anyway, this is the truth. Only hairs in the resting or shedding phase come out (unless you are pulling really hard) and once a hair gets to this point, there's really no saving it or changing this.
Some Things That You Can Try To Make The Conditioning Come With Less Shedding Or Fall Out: Even though the hairs that typically come out during this process were going to shed eventually anyway, it can be important psychologically to see as few hairs coming out as possible. So you can try to change your regimen to lessen the manipulation. You can try conditioning before you shampoo. This will make your hands slide over the strands from the beginning and will require less tugging and manipulation. If you really can't stomach using conditioner, in the shower, consider using the light weight spray on kind that doesn't need to be rinsed out. And if you notice that one brand makes the shedding worse or better, by all means experiment until you find something that works. I do know that many folks report that the two in one products (which are shampoo and conditioner combined) can sometimes yield a little improvement.
Why You Shouldn't Skip Conditioning On Shedding Hair: The truth is, hair that is falling out excessively will often have a weird, flyaway texture as more hairs go into the resting phase at one time. Skipping cream rinse or similar products will often only make this appearance worse. And these products help to add volume and make your hair easier to comb through and style. Skipping them will often make the appearance and health of your hair worse, which is what you don't want. Before you give up cream rinse all together, try some of the methods I described above to see if you can get some relief.
Of course, the best case scenario is to stop the excess shedding. If you are able to pinpoint the trigger or cause and then stop it, you could go back to your regular regimen and forget all these worries. Until then though, experiment with what works best and don't hesitate to do whatever works for you. There are no right and wrong answers here - only what helps the shed while maintaining the appearance and health of your hair.